Pushing the limit: Steroids and gay men

For many gay and bi men appearance is a huge deal. Our community seems to consistently define itself though images of attractive and shirtless muscled guys.

That can translate to a desire to make our bodies as sculpted as possible to meet that hard to achieve ideal. The guys who do transform their bodies at the gym become objects of sexual desire and represent an impressive commitment to a healthy lifestyle. But can striving to look good become a hazard?

TEN81 Tips: Body image

“I’m not going to sacrifice my mental health to have the perfect body.” – Demi Lovato

This month, TEN81 looks at how to deal with a negative body image. This involves understanding that healthy, attractive bodies come in many shapes and sizes.

TEN81 Tips: Setting boundaries

“Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring… I care about me, too.” – Christine Morgan

Boundaries help to define us as individuals and help us to set limits. They help us to understand where we need to draw the line in order to feel respected and valued in relationships.