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TEN81 Tips: Dealing with bullying

“I realised that bullying never has to do with you. It’s the bully who’s insecure” – Shay Mitchell

As we celebrate our youth this month, TEN81 looks at bullying, and how to deal with it.

• Don’t react to the bully
• Try to remain calm. Don’t show the bully how you feel
• Show confidence. Even if you don’t feel confident, act like you do
• Look the bully in the eye and tell them to stop, but don’t get into a confrontation. Walk  away
• If possible, have a talk with the bully if the right opportunity arises
• Stay connected and hang out with a group – bullies will try to isolate you.
• Involve an adult, someone you trust, or professional person. Talk about it
• Act quickly. The longer the bully gets away with it, the more power they have over their victims
• Don’t blame yourself. The problem lies with the bully, not you

If you need advice or support, please contact:

– Dr Dick on www.men2men.co.za
– or Dr Delicious on www.womyn2womyn.co.za
– Get FREE face-to-face counselling at TEN81 in Pretoria (Book now on 012 430 3272 / 066 190 5812)
– or get FREE telephonic counselling nationwide (012 430 3272 / 066 190 5812)

TEN81 Tips: Coming out as bisexual

“Remember, bisexuality doesn’t mean halfway between gay and straight. It is its own identity” – Evan Rachel Wood

As we’re marking the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia & Biphobia (IDAHOTB) this month, we’re looking at coming out as bisexual.

Chemsex: Protect yourself

Chemsex is when gay, bi or other men who have sex with men (MSM) use any or a combination of drugs such as crystal methamphetamine, cat, mephedrone and/or GHB/GBL before or during sex.

It’s usually, but not always, used by men who hook up with other men through dating sites and apps.

As Chemsex often occurs without condoms and / or with injecting drugs it can come with a number of health risks, such as an increased chance of HIV infection.

PrEP is a daily pill that has shown to be extremely effective in stopping HIV infection and is worth considering for those who engage in Chemsex. (It does not, however, protect you from other STIs.)

To find out more details and to get PrEP for free from the TEN81 clinic in Pretoria, call us on 012 430 3272. We offer a friendly, professional and confidential service to gay, bi and other MSM.

TEN81 is now open on SATURDAY mornings

We’re excited to announce that as from 31 March 2018, the TEN81 Centre will also be open on Saturday mornings.

Our Saturday opening hours are 09h00 to 13h00.

This will help us assist clients who may struggle to get to our clinic during weekday office hours, which remain unchanged (08h00 to 16h00, Monday to Friday).

We look forward to seeing you! Remember to make an appointment by calling 066 190 5812 / 012 430 3272.

Pushing the limit: Steroids and gay men

For many gay and bi men appearance is a huge deal. Our community seems to consistently define itself though images of attractive and shirtless muscled guys.

That can translate to a desire to make our bodies as sculpted as possible to meet that hard to achieve ideal. The guys who do transform their bodies at the gym become objects of sexual desire and represent an impressive commitment to a healthy lifestyle. But can striving to look good become a hazard?

TEN81 Tips: Body image

“I’m not going to sacrifice my mental health to have the perfect body.” – Demi Lovato

This month, TEN81 looks at how to deal with a negative body image. This involves understanding that healthy, attractive bodies come in many shapes and sizes.